The 5 Love Languages

Valentines day..

              It was cuter when I was in first grade. But for real.

        All elementary students knew that Feb. 14th meant a day of making heart shaped crafts and eating candy. What kid wouldn't love this day? I remember handing out rocket power valentines, bought from Walmart, and giving them to everyone in class. But the fun didn't stop there. When I would get to class the teacher had us make mini cutesy mail boxes to strap on the back of our chairs so everyone could hand out their valentines treats/cards to place them in our "mail box's". Mine was Karter Fitzgerld. The bad boy in class. Lol (this could be awwkkkk if he or anyone from South Mountain Elementary school read this) OH WELL. 

Now, I don't really care to talk about valentines day in particular because in a relationship or not I think the holiday is slightly................gay.

                     Don't get me wrong, I do appreciate the gifts and gestures I have received in the past& especially this year<3 However, I am more interested in the language of love than the hallmark day because I believe we should show our appreciation for the ones we care for on the D.. (daily bases) (excuse my vulgar humor) 

The love language is how you express love to others and how you feel loved by others..

There are 5 main parts to love languages *According to Gary Chapman*

      1) Words of affirmation

      2) Acts of service

      3) Receiving gifts

      4) Quality time

      5) Physical touch

Words of affirmation: Actions don't always speak louder than words to these people. Compliments or words of encouragement is key for this love language. The compliments or words of encouragement must be sincere and humble; coming straight from the heart..

Acts of service: Anything that eases the burden of responsibilities means the world to people with acts of service as their love language. In this case, actions DO speak louder than words. People with this love language seek to serve the ones they love or be served by the ones they love.

Receiving gifts: Receiving gifts does not always have to be materialistic. This love language accepts any kind of gift as long as it is sincere. The love language of gifts does not have to be materialistic either, it can simply be the gift of someones presence. It does not necessarily have to be store bought either, it can be as simple as giving someone one of your sprites from your 6 pack. It is the thought that counts.

Quality time: The time you spend with someone is valuable because time is something you can never get back. Nothing speaks love better than giving someone your full undivided attention. Quality time can be spent in a variety of ways, it has many dialects. Whether it's just hanging out, doing an activity that the individual likes in particular, or having a quality conversation if presence is unavailable (long distance relationships).
                **Interesting fact: This is my love language :)

Physical touch: Physical touch can be a thoughtful way to demonstrate excitement, care, concern, love, ext. The person with this as their primary love language isn't necessarily a very touchy person. The key to this love language is knowing where and when to touch this kind of person to make them feel comforted and loved. Holding hands, hugging, kissing, sitting next to each other, &sex are all substantial for this love language. Don't get the wrong idea, it is not all about the bedroom.


The 5 love languages captivate me because the knowledge of them helps all relationships in my life. If I can pick up on my friends and family's love languages I can understand our relationships better and help strengthen them by knowing how each person receives love.
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If you are a book worm, I suggested reading Gary Chapman's book "The 5 Love Languages"
            BUUUTTT
If you are not, you can google it and quickly read up on more facts about each one without having to read a book cover to cover.
                ANNNDD
If you would like to discover which love language you speak here is a website you can take a quick quiz and find out for yourself ;)  http://www.5lovelanguages.com/profile/

I mean really, it isn't too difficult to figure out your love language. Just think about the one argument you have with your significant other constantly.. Whether it's spending time with each other, not holding hands enough, not having anything sentimental from the relationship, not doing enough work around the house or wherever, or not hearing those loving words enough..
               You should be able to at least get a rough idea of what love language you speak from reflecting on what your biggest complain in your relationship is.